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Mama’s Writing | Christina Springer

  Mama’s Writing is Raising Mothers’ monthly interview series, curated by Deesha Philyaw. Are there days when you feel like a mother who writes, and others when you feel like a writer who is a mother?  Essentially, I am the mother of two only children. They are 16 years apart, and even though they have the same mother, I was in different places in my life with each one. Regardless, their mother was a writer since way before they were born. Children are likely the reason I spent so many years writing poetry. You can always pop the beginnings of a poem out. Then you just keep coming back to it. Nurse it. Rock it. Cajole it to come correct. Until it’s finally ready to get up off your lap and walk around in the world.  How has writing influenced your parenting? I can’t say that it has. I’ve always viewed them as separate. I’ve wanted to be a writer since I was eight years old. I’ve always viewed writing as my work. Like a salesperson …

When You Beget

You get what you get, when you get a child. It’s not your job to mold them or change them or coerce them or manipulate them or harangue them or beat them into being what you want. Is to be in relationship with the human you created & guide it into being ~ themself. They are not you. You do not know what they brought with them when they arrived. You do not control every other human with whom they will interact. You are not their only influence. They are not who they become because of or in spite of you. The whole world shapes your child. Your job is to witness. Your job is to show up. Your job is to offer information & the occasional hard won piece of wisdom. Your job is to be such a great version of yourself that they strive to take a little bit of who they perceive you to be & twist & shape & massage it into connecting with the being they are constructing for themselves …